The Casting Dock

He’s just a better person than I am. Simple as that.

I always tell Jerry that he’s just a better person than I am. It’s a common phrase in our household.

He generally chuckles and says something along the lines of, That’s just not true. But it is. Sure, I know we each have our own individual strengths and blah, blah, blah, blaaaaahhhhh, but on the good-person scale, he falls further to the right than I do. (Stop shaking your head and mumbling that I’m crazy, Jerome. You know it’s true.)

Since I so commonly make the claim, I figured it was high time I back it up with some evidence. So, unbeknownst to him, I’ve been keeping a running record of all the little things that prove his superior good person status.

Let me lay the evidence before you:

Friday: We get chicken kabob salads from our favorite local sub shop.  They come with these DELICIOUS homemade pitas, which are essentially the entire reason we keep going back. Now we both know that the pitas are best on the softer side–less well done. When Jerry’s doling out the salads and pitas, he ALWAYS gives me the better looking one, the nice, soft, fluffy, perfectly cooked one. But what do I do on Friday? I give him the worse one under the guise of it “being a little bigger.” Selfish.

Saturday: I pounce (read: jump on) Jerry at 8am on the one day that he can sleep in because I am restless, hungry, and really craving breakfast at a local joint. He graciously obliges. Selfish vs. selfless, round two.

Sunday: We get home late from a friend’s celebratory shindig and who is standing faithfully at the sink doing all our dinner dishes by hand? You guessed it: the man of the hour. And where I am? Getting ready for (and subsequently into) bed! Round three, Jer.

Monday: I get home from work on the later side and take a friend out to dinner to celebrate her birthday. Poor Jerome gets saddled with making the weekly grocery run…to the always jam-packed-particularly-with-elderly-people Market Basket. The deals are legitimate, but you pay the price of inconvenience to get them. And he was a real trooper that night.

Tuesday: So normally our daily routine consists of the first person up making the french press coffee and the second person up making the bed. Since I’ve started this new job and am still feeling out my time schedule in the morning, MANY days he has ended up doing both tasks, Tuesday being one of them. And he does so with such a serving spirit.

Wednesday: He abandons his pre-planned 4:30 work-out to satisfy my irrational ice cream craving. Aaaaand Jer takes round four.

Thursday: He runs out for me at 10pm to get cream cheese for the bagels that I am bringing into work the next morning just to save me the stop at the crack of dawn. Sweet. Heart.

Am I making my point clearly enough? I could certainly go on. On the next Friday he woke up early to dust off my car from the crazy April snow so I wouldn’t have to worry about it when I left. On Saturday he did 3 out of our 4 loads of laundry. And the list goes on and on. I mean, I kept a legit record. And these are only the out of the ordinary acts of service. Not even taking into account his daily ones.

Better. Person. Point, Jerome.

And man, reading back through that, it really sounds like I do nothing for myself. HA.


1 jenna { 04.12.11 at 8:11 am }

i wanna hear his rebuttle.

2 whit { 04.12.11 at 10:06 am }

ditto to that…

3 whit { 04.12.11 at 10:07 am }

and the top right photo…. beyond amazing (prick-dogg being my fav)

4 Julie Hodgson { 04.12.11 at 10:24 am }

This blog post finally warrants a response from me. Lisa, you are a VERY lucky girl…Jerry is as good as they come and actually gives me–a man-hating, feminist–hope in the male species. If I found someone as great as Jerry I might consider giving marriage a try too.

5 Lisa { 04.12.11 at 5:11 pm }

OH. MY. GOODNESS. This IS an epic day, indeed. Jules, I have been wondering what it would take to draw you out. I have contemplated writing something really out there that I knew would realllllyyy push your buttons to hopefully pull you into commenting. I’m not even lying–I’ve talked with Jerry about it. And I’m seriously not kidding when I say that I think Jer will legitimately feel honored that HE was the topic that inspired it! :)

Whit, bottom right is my fave…Jer’s face just cracks me up everytime!

Jenna, he says he’s going to craft a rebuttle. It’ll be short. I’m right on this one. Not much to say to that.

6 Jer { 04.12.11 at 7:07 pm }

First, Jules, welcome to the blog! Win-win situation for me: I get mad love on this post and it draws my favorite man-hating feminist into the Dock. :-)

Second, thanks for the very kind words Lis and Jules. You two are very generous.

Now, let me address the unnecessary lovefest above and hopefully provide a small rebuttal per Jenna’s and Whit’s demands. Look at Lis’s examples and you’ll find a common thread in most all of them: my acts of kindness or service or whatever you want to call them are all directed toward one person–her. [sappy alert] I’m not a better person than Lis; I just love my wife and try to express that in the day-to-day things.

I always tell Lis that the comparison game is dangerous, so I’ll first stress the same idea here. But I’ll play the game for kicks. If you are going to make comparisons, you should present each side fairly, which means, my dear Lis, that it might be worth mentioning the $20 you left on a random car with your “Just Bee Generous” notecard a few weeks ago or the $20 you paid at a bake sale for (count ‘em) four cookies and a muffin the other day. So, to satisfy the calls for a rebuttal while hopefully falling on the right side of the line between mutual admiration and annoyingly in-love couple, allow me to posit that if anyone is doing a better job of loving, it’s the girl whose acts serve strangers and acquaintances rather than the guy who loves the one person he’s supposed to.

7 Jer { 04.12.11 at 7:12 pm }

And for the record, I’m much more comfortable under the bus ( than in the spotlight. Let’s put me back in my rightful place, huh Lis?

8 Little Lauren { 04.12.11 at 8:37 pm }

If I ever get married, I am going to send my hubby-to-be to have a sit down chat with Jerry so that he can hear how to be as amazing as Jerry is! Get ready for it, k? Also… I love the picture on the bottom right. It’s such a Sally picture and it makes me laugh every time I see it!

9 John { 04.12.11 at 8:45 pm }

Jerry just knows that sex starts in the kitchen…

10 erica { 04.13.11 at 4:34 pm }

I think Jerry is super great :) Jerry, sometimes spouses forget to love their wife like they are supposed to (not Josh, off course ;) ). Although what Lisa does for strangers will put extra jewels in her heavenly crown, it is very admirable, and “living so others might live is my new life motto” which she exemplifies so well…I think she is right in showing the world how great of a husband you are. In my opinion, every wife should honor their husband in public.
Maybe you and Doody should make a website that shows how to be a great husband in your next “guys night.” You can put some Creed as the back music if you want to ;)

11 bryan { 04.13.11 at 4:44 pm }

Hey Julie! Posts a Comment!!

I think it’s good that you think Jerry is better in some ways. It’s like when was 18 and used to play basketball at the Y. In the best games the other nine guys were generally better than me, at least a little bit. So long as I was in their league and could play with them, it was way more fun to play with good athletes than to get in a game where I was the was the best player. Plus, it’s a thrill to throw alley-oop passes. That won’t be happening if I am the best player on the court.

12 noche { 04.14.11 at 12:04 am }

For whoever is keeping score….I think they are tied….and so a perfect match!

13 Christine { 04.14.11 at 2:21 am }

14 Lindsey { 04.15.11 at 8:42 am }

Love this post. I am right there with you on almost all of these examples…Scott is a waaaaaaay better person than me (I am always selfishly taking the better slice of pizza etc..) and he is so good at the little things. I need to be better about serving him the way he serves me! Thanks for the reminder. You’ve got yourself a pretty great guy, but I KNOW you do wonderful things for him too! Don’t be too hard on yourself! Oh, and if you’re referring to the Chicken Kabob salads at Giovanni’s than I am SO jealous! Those are our favorites too!!! :) It almost makes me want to move back down to the north shore to eat them on a regular basis!

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