The Casting Dock

Countdown to Lil’G: Weeks 25-30

Well, somewhere along the way I got wayyyy behind with these little buggers…
so here goes an attempt at rapid catch-up…

weeks27&28: vacation weeks

Oh, parenting.
You terrify me; you excite me.
So many opinions and philosophies and books and unending, often unrequested advice.

Even in these past few months as I think about kids and parenting and what I want for my little guy and my family in general, I’ve felt myself mellow (Jerome sings a song of praise and breaths a deep sigh of relief, I’m sure). I’m not all wound up classic American style (anymore) with wanting my kid to do everything, play everything, know everything–to basically be the best and the smartest and the most talented and every other superlative out there.
I really have mellowed.

When I think about parenting, I really just want to:

+ model the characteristics both individually and through our marriage that we want our kids to embody

+ be consistent with our rules, expectations, and consequences

+ actively create an atmosphere where dialogue is open and no topics are considered taboo

+ establish from day 1 that our kids are a part of our family, not the center of our family

+ be patient, forgiving, and always willing to teach and listen

Sounds easy enough, right?
Riiiiiiight.

And to all you parents out there, I know I’m in for a rude awakening in that these will be far more challenging to carry out in practice than in theory, but at least I’m coming in with some attempted direction, an aim line to shoot for…

Maybe I should add:
be flexible and have a sense of humor when my well laid plans are shot to pieces…

6 comments

1 whitney { 05.11.13 at 1:16 pm }

i think those things sound amazing and you guys will do all that and more… with lots of laughing and adjusting along the way. rock on.

2 Kim { 05.11.13 at 4:58 pm }

Happy early Mother’s day!!!!! You are going to be a fabulous Mom!!! Charlie is already so lucky. xoxo

3 k&c's mom { 05.11.13 at 9:29 pm }

Lisa: it won’t be a rude awakening. It will be the most exciting, fulfilling, challenging, life-altering (shall I continue? think you’ve got the picture!) thing you are ever blessed to do in this life.

4 Bryan { 05.12.13 at 7:23 pm }

I think it’s a solid list. I know people say parenting is hard but those things don’t seem that hard to me so maybe those won’t be the elements of parenting that will be difficult for you. I’m sure the challenges are unforeseeable…

I too notice that people tend to offer unsolicited advice. I only offer unsolicited to people I like but even then I try to not to.

So let me offer you a piece of unsoliticed advice but you know this already cuz you’re a smart guy: Demonstrate congruence between what you say, what you say you’re going to do and what you actually do.

5 Lindsey (Allenby) { 05.12.13 at 9:10 pm }

You guys are going to be incredible parents! Can’t wait to see you in June! Happy Mother’s Day!

6 Alyson { 05.20.13 at 8:56 pm }

I think you are more prepared than you realize. :)

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