Posts from — May 2013
Well, somewhere along the way I got wayyyy behind with these little buggers…
so here goes an attempt at rapid catch-up…
weeks27&28: vacation weeks
You terrify me; you excite me.
So many opinions and philosophies and books and unending, often unrequested advice.
Even in these past few months as I think about kids and parenting and what I want for my little guy and my family in general, I’ve felt myself mellow (Jerome sings a song of praise and breaths a deep sigh of relief, I’m sure). I’m not all wound up classic American style (anymore) with wanting my kid to do everything, play everything, know everything–to basically be the best and the smartest and the most talented and every other superlative out there.
I really have mellowed.
When I think about parenting, I really just want to:
+ model the characteristics both individually and through our marriage that we want our kids to embody
+ be consistent with our rules, expectations, and consequences
+ actively create an atmosphere where dialogue is open and no topics are considered taboo
+ establish from day 1 that our kids are a part of our family, not the center of our family
+ be patient, forgiving, and always willing to teach and listen
Sounds easy enough, right?
And to all you parents out there, I know I’m in for a rude awakening in that these will be far more challenging to carry out in practice than in theory, but at least I’m coming in with some attempted direction, an aim line to shoot for…
Maybe I should add:
be flexible and have a sense of humor when my well laid plans are shot to pieces…
May 11, 2013 6 Comments
+ life these days involves lots of this. lots and lots of it. like ate-a-giant-one-by-myself-in-three-days lots. cool, sweet, refreshing, a little foretaste of summer…it’s been perfect.
+ life these days is centered on houses. conversations, time, savings–all going towards houses. quite obviously, we are in the spring house hunt. with half the rest of the north shore here in massachusetts, i should say. i’m a little all over the place about it. a total fixer-upper? a multi-family? a small, but updated single family? a tiny place by the water? a place with more yard and space? i certainly know what i like, but there are so many different ways to go with it. i have my eye on a very narrow stretch of land in my ideal location and that is certainly my top priority. it should be interesting to see how and when it all plays out. jerry and i have some different priorities…but i think we will ultimately find the right spot for us.
+ life these days involves lots of doting on this guy, all cuddled up in our frilly, feminine comforter (and all up on my side of the bed, might i say). perhaps the pregnancy hormones have something to do with it, but i just adore, I mean really adooooooore him even more than usual. he’s just the sweetest little thing.
+ life these days is (finally!) involving time outside again!!! the green-tipped trees, the sweet budding flowers, the glowing sunshine with a crisp breeze. we are actually getting a spring this year. a true novelty.
+ life these days means berries. lots and lots of berries. true berry-picking season is almost here! sing thee my soul.
+ life these days involves lots of bonding with this little guy rumbling and tumbling around in there. we will be meeting him in only 10ish weeks.
May 5, 2013 2 Comments